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Dear Thelma (Why I Won't Stop Dating Married Men).

Thelma I know judgemental Nigerians will insult me but I don't care because I know I'm not alone in this. I date married men a lot mainly because they approach me more than single men. Also because these men know how to love a lady. Single men in nigeria behave like they're doing you a favour by dating you. They cannot spend money on you, some even want to use whatsap call to toast you. Single men want to take you on date but that date will be in his house. Imagine somebody inviting you to his house for first date and offering you coke and Indomie noodles. The problem is that most of them don't even try to make an effort. Then let's not even talk about the ones that meet you and tell you they see you in their future and start asking you for money. Dating married men is sweet I won't lie, you never lack anything, all it takes is one frown on your face and they will give you heaven and earth, they're willing to fly you around local and internationally, they will do everything that they can to make your life comfortable, and also the sex is too lit. It's lit because many of them have fantasies that they can never try with their wife at home so you're the one that they have all their sexual adventure with. 

When a married man loves his girlfrien he worships her. I cannot say that about single boys in this nigeria. I try to give some single boys a chance but it is frustrating and also challenging for me because I'm used to the baby girl lifestyle. How can I date somebody that cannot pay my house rent or buy me flight ticket? My question is why do single men in nigeria not make an effort? If married men can treat you like a small god then why can't single ones step up? Even if they don't have money why can't they  treat girls well? I just started dating one guy because he is nice and intelligent and he's ready to settle down, but I'm sorry I'm not leaving my married boyfriend until the bobo puts a ring on my finger. Wedding ring not engagement ring. Also all you "karma is real" people should sit down and be quiet. Many women that were virgins when they married, their husband still have plenty girlfriends outside, so leave me alone. Single men you need to step up your game otherwise your wive's sugar daddy will continue to pay for your wedding reception and even do chairman of the occasion on your wedding day.


  1. Hehehe you actually sat down picked up a phone or tablet and tried so hard to justify something that is obviously wrong?
    Baby girl you are living the 'life' you want and while it is interesting to you at this moment, take a few seconds to analyse the effect this enjoyment of yours is doing to another lady like you. I really hope you get it right someday. Enjoy.

  2. Hmm.....long sigh.

    A stable and loving relationship is more than the fleeting pleasures that you think these married men currently afford you. Chrisyinks

  3. Na vex this babe carry come ooo...
    What do i know sef?

  4. I'm saving the advice I have for my kids. You are free to do whatever you want.

  5. Your life your rules.
    I have my own personal wahala to think about.J

  6. OMG LOL! @Tamia lixir just cracked me up and open! Simple o! No time and space for u so Do you girl! LOL!


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After listening to a song "IF YOU LOVE SOMEBODY TELL THEM THAT YOU
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