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Hello February My Good Friend (This Month I Shoot My Shot!)

I'm shooting my shot this month, and no, it's not because of Valentine, it's because I'm taking my destiny into my own freaking hands. 

I've bought my flight tickets and I've made my hotel reservation. We're going to settle this once and for all.

It's the most annoying thing ever, when people want you, just not the one you actually want. I tell myself maybe if he lives in Lagos... But he doesn't. 

We talk and he has invited me to Abuja a couple of times, but just as a friend, I think. I can't have that, we cannot be just friends. And I don't attach much to his invites, he can afford to fly me in and give me a 5-star treatment just for the fun of it, and that doesn't sit well with me. That said, he hasn't made me an invitation in a while...

I've never felt this way about anyone else.

I met him in 2012, that's the only time I've seen him. We didn't even talk. He was at my friend's wedding, i saw him talk to her once, that was the only time I ever saw him but the minute I saw him I felt like I'd always known him, I felt like he's someone who's meant to play a major role in my life. I knew he wasn't just anybody. 

So I was shell-shocked when I asked my friend who he was. "Oh, that's my cousin I've been telling you about, the one that's married to...."

Wait. What? He can't be married! He's supposed to be for me, there's a mistake somewhere! He. Cannot. Be. Married. 

But you see, he was.

I never talked to him or saw him after that, but I never forgot him. Through the years he'd occasionally cross my mind; my love that never was. I would occasionally ask my friend how he was doing and she would say "fine".  

Then suddenly sometime in 2017 my friend casually says in a conversation "Oh, did I tell you *Tariah got a divorce?"

Aha! It made sense. I was right after all, he was meant for me!

I was still with my ex so I didn't think much of it. However, a few months later I boldly asked my friend to give me Tariah's number. She said she would have to ask him first πŸ˜’

She did, and guess what, he said No. 😳😳😳

I felt let down but I knew it wasn't the end. A few weeks later my friend said Tariah had been asking of me, that he asked for my number but she refused, because she wanted to do shakara on my behalf.

I told her, sis, I did not send you any message. Give that man my number before you become unfortunate in life!

Two days later I got a message saying Hi, I didn't need to ask who it was, immediately responded; "I hear you've been looking for me".

And the rest, as they say, is history. 

Well, not quite. 

We chatted for a couple of hours and I confirmed what I'd always suspected, this guy is meant for me.

The next couple of days had us spending hours on the phone, talking. We connected. I felt like I'd always known him. I could talk to him about almost anything and he was very open with me too. The chemistry was real and as thick as my thighs. 

Unfortunately he kind of switched off in December. We talk a few times but he sounds distant. He's still warm and witty and lively, but distant. I hear him asking me questions but I hear him not listening to my answers. 

I've met a lot of people, and gone on the usual dates and occasionally get spoiled by a few. Oh, did I tell you my yoruba demon made a reappearance, and you know that one knows how to spoil a girl senseless... But in all this I cannot stop thinking about Tariah.

Realistically, I know nothing about him but he's everything I want. I cannot explain this, it makes no sense, I know. But I've never felt this way ever, like this person is supposed to be in my life. This is not a crush, it's an intuition. 

And since I cannot wait for fate or Cupid, I've decided to take matters into my hands. I'm going to take a trip, I'm going to settle this. 

It's either he's mine or he's not.

No, I'm not going to do anything overly bold or crazy. I simply intend for us to meet casually and talk over food or drinks and see if there's really something there, or if I'm merely delusional. 

I don't even know what this guy looks like anymore, I mean I've only seen him once, for about 3 seconds. The thing is, in those 3 seconds I felt a lot. I felt his aura. He has a great aura, something my friend attests to as well. I also just felt, like, this is it!

So I'm going to find out.

I may or may not keep you posted, depending on how things go. 😚😚😚


And on this note, I wish you a truly tremendous February. I've just shared one specific thing I intend to do this month. Kindly return the favour, tell me yours. ❤️



  1. Heheheheehe.... Thelma baby,I like your courage. Way to go mama.. Maybelline

  2. We have missed you Thelma please keep this up. And make sure you keep us posted.

  3. Replies
    1. Kai I've starved this troll for too long. I missed you sha. πŸ˜‚

  4. I must say I luv dis mood. Pls come to abj, and we have to hook up too. Happy February Baby. Wow, so I haven't spelt this month in a long time? I intend to learn how to drive. May my nuts be cracked benevolently.

    1. I will keep you posted, it would be nice too see as I don't know many people in Abj. I will also follow up about you about the driving lessons. πŸ˜‰

    2. Omg, what if he's now in a wheelchair and knows he doesn't stand a chance with the gorgeous Thelma but she still loves him anyway and after 2 weeks of wickedly acrobatic bedroom moves and absolute debauchery she's set to leave. At the airport he suddenly stands up for the first time in 3 years and utters the 3 words every woman wants to hear, 'stay with me'. I'm crying already.

  5. Hahaha this cracked me up really but on the other hand, just get it over with once and for all. Be Happy.

  6. I intend to read. That's all. No time for any other thing in my life right now. Except maybe pressing my phone. In the meantime, dear ttb people, I am badly in need of a vacation. So this is me soliciting that you guys sponsor my trip to wherever after my final examsπŸ˜€πŸ˜€. Much love y'all

    1. Dear TTB fairy godmothers & fathers alike, Iyanu and I are in need of a vacation. Please sponsor a Girl's Trip. Thank you as you make your donations πŸ‘’

  7. All the best with shooting your shot. In a couple of days, it'd be one year since girlfriend and I started its a good month for me. Chrisyinks

    1. Awwww. Congratulations Chris. πŸ’—πŸ’—πŸ’—

  8. "I told her, sis, I did not send you any message. Give that man my number before you become unfortunate in life!" LMHAO. I wish you the very best as you shoot your shot.

    I'm grateful for February, I hope to turn all the talk I have done about going to the gym and getting fit into action this month.. so help me God.

  9. There is still shooting shots going on! Ok oh, Thelma should keep us updated anyhow it goes and best of luck too.
    For February, I am continuing with my exploratory visits to new places, going to Lisbon and Porto in Portugal, excited about the wine tour already!

    1. Please come and carry me along, i need the tour toooo. Asa

  10. This February is for shooting o! I'm taking a second shot at Dark Chocolate (don't know why I bothered stopping the first time, addicted much) The stars seem to be more aligned for our matter.
    I'm also drawing outside the box (my 2018 life plan actually) and I'm learning to ride!! I'm thinking I might as well live it up now I'm single and unencumbered and hey, I only live once so this year, I'm finally seriously thinking of getting a Hayabusa for my birthday! Already started saving up.
    Hey T!!! I've missed you!

  11. i love this!
    im tempted to do same. there is a person in america ive known for 10 years. in 2014, we fell in love over text messages and calls and skype. then we 'broke up'. 2017, we sorta reconnected and we both know theres something. ive been telling myself im going to make that trip so that i can know what is really going on so i can open my heart fully or close the chapter forever.
    im still thinking.
    lets know how your abuja trip goes


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