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Hello everyone, yesterday a friend said to me, Thelma I love your blog, I've told so many people about your blog, I think you're a very good writer but I feel there's something you're not doing right"

This friend was the first person who won our beauty of the day contest back then in 2014. Then we had met just once through a mutual friend. I mentioned the blog to her and she became an instant reader. I wouldn't have exactly called her a friend then but yesterday as we sat down waiting for our Uber to come get us from Wal-Mart, she's definitely my friend and I knew she was coming from a good place when she said she had much higher expectations of my blog.

Me too.

But you see, in the last year or so, maybe even longer than that, I haven't felt much joy in blogging. It began to feel more and more of a laborious chore, one which I hardly reaped any fruits from.

I really love writing, I love sharing my life and my experiences with others and I've enjoyed sharing with you and reading your comments.

But the quality of my blog has become very subpar and because I lack the willpower and the time actually, to do anything about that, I think it's best for me to say good bye.

I may start blogging again someday. I may start vlogging much later. But I feel like I'm entering a new era in my life and there's not much time for some other things right now. I'm writing this because it tortures me when I think of people opening the blog and finding nothing new to read.

I'm not varnishing into thin air however. If you miss me you'll find me on Instagram @thelmathinks , I'll post from there for now, and you can still reach me on

I may occasionally share posts on IG, I may come back here once in a blue moon if I feel like it, but that's unlikely.

I've wanted to do this for so long but whenever I think of my readers I pause. Some of you have been so loyal, it makes absolutely no sense! I want to say a huge thank you.

For the people I've met through this blog, the friends I've made whom I'd have never met otherwise, I'm so grateful.

Btw today's my birthday, well in Houston it's not my birthday for another 4 hours but my brain is still on Nigerian time. I'll see you around guys.


  1. Thank you Thelma ...u have done a great job with the blog....soar and reach ur best potential! We are rooting for you.

  2. Happy birthday Thelma..

  3. And you had to finally do this to us.. Am heart broken .Happy birthday.TNHW

  4. Happy birthday Tee. I really enjoy reading your blog. I'll miss it and all other blog readers.

  5. Happy birthday Nwando! Wish you many more wonderful years ahead.I'll miss the blog as well as the blog readers.Enjoy your day.

  6. What???? I don't know why this is making me sad. I know you must have thought about it well sha so let me just say Thank You. I started my blog because of you, it was from reading this blog that I knew a blog doesn't have to always mean celebrities and gossip. I wish you big things going forward.

  7. Pheeew! You have finally relocated. I don't see you coming back to Naija hence this decision. I will miss you and your writing, you are super intelligent, I believe in you and I know you'll make it. May God be with you in your other life endeavours.

  8. I will miss the blog so bad.Happy Birthday T😌

  9. Happy Birthday always, wishing you the very best with your new year and this new phase. Chrisyinks

  10. Hi Thelma, i have beem a silent reader for years and I've enjoyed reading every writeup. You really are a fantastic writer and its so sad to say good bye

    Anyways, wishing u a very happy birthday and a wonderful year ahead. God bless and keep u always.

    Wishing u the very best.

  11. Happy birthday my sister, it’s sad you have to stop blogging, your blog has meant a lot to me

  12. Are you serious? So this is the last post?
    We still have many things to talk about here...

    I can understand your decision sha. Its not easy feeding peoples expectations.

    We gon keep in touch.


  13. Thelma, I will miss you. Tho I seldom comment..i have been following your blog for about 4 yrs now. You inspire me. Happy birthday to you may God exceed your expectations for the year and may all you do make God proud

  14. TTB.. I love this blog with all my heart. Thank you Thelma for this awesome platform. I'm grateful for the great friends I made on this blog and all the lit and intelligent conversations we used to have. I learnt so many good and bad bad tinz on this blog.. lol.

    I wish you all the very very best in your new phase and best believe we're on that Instagram together.

    Have a fabulous new year ahead mami. God bless you.

  15. Mehn i saw this coming! "Monitoring spirits" have finally succeeded in driving Thelma away from the blogosphere. Smh!
    I'm sure gonna miss our time here mehn i feel like crying but it's well.
    Happy birthday T. Do have an amazing year.

  16. All the best. There is no day I don't open the page for new contents.

  17. AW!! this hurts, but its okay. its been great here the conversations, posts and the blog especially you Thelma, you are awesome. I wish you the very best and yes Instagram here we come

  18. Bye Thelma and Happy Birthday too. I sure will miss the blog.Wishing you the very best in all your life endeavors.

  19. This is sad to hear. But then again, as readers, we don't know what it takes to continually put out content, so it's very understandable. I'll miss your blog. You're very relate-able, and you have a good heart. Here's wishing you all the very best going forward!!

    1. Wow!
      This was sad to read however, I believe it's for the best. I'll stalk on Instagram and you remain woman crush everyday. I wish you all the best and love always. Cheers!

  20. *wipes tear* I'd miss u... Have a wonderful birthday T.. God bless u for sharing of yourself the way u did

  21. Outstanding story there. What occurred after?
    Good luck!

  22. Bye Thelma thinks. Grateful for the relatable memories and acquaintances and even friends. You'll do awesome things Thelma.

  23. Thelma, whatever you do.....take time off, take lots of time off.....but do not shut this space.

    Lets sit with a few strategist and make this work.

    You are almost there.
    Will miss this

  24. Can't help but feel sucker punched.

  25. Had to read this post over and over again. Wow. This felt like the day I wrote my final exams in secondary school and parted with my secondary school boy friend.

    This place is like a family to me. I always come here to draw lots of strength. Life is like that

    Lots of love for you dear. Will honestly miss you. seriously.

    Happy birthday my love. So many good things lie ahead of you.

    Stay focused. Stay blessed.

  26. Even tho im not a regular, i still come back to read thru each post, never met you but u seem humble yet bold. Plus ur blog has matured commenters. Definitely be missed on the blogsphere. Happy belated birthday Tee.

  27. Thelma I will miss this blog so much... Happy Birthday darling!


  29. So sad to see this.
    Happy Birthday Thelma,God bless you.
    All the best with the new era! I shall stalk on instagram. Thank you for always making me smile on my way from work with your writing! Few years ago when i was on maternity, your blog kept me company during midnight breastfeeding. You are an amazing person with a large heart.God bless you always. xx

  30. I felt like crying after reading this post, you will be missed Thelma by every one of us. Life is a continuous journey, I pray you get to enjoy every other adventure that comes your way, (yes blogging was an adventure to you). I love you my Amawbia sis, eventhough i have never met you in person but trust that whenever i am opportuned to run into you, I will surprise you with a big hug from my small frame. Cheers and I wish you well.

  31. I hoped it'll be a prank or something🙁


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