Thelma I'm near my due date and there's something that's bothering me, it has caused several fights between the hubs and i. I have tried to make him see reason but he refuses to do so. I'm Igbo while he's from Kogi. I understand and speak my language fluently but he doesn't understand his. My heritage is so important to me.
The issue started when he insisted that his mother will be the one to name our baby and i will not have a say in any of the names. I was like huh 😳! It caused a big fight. How can I carry a child for 9 months and someone else will come and name him/Her? He then said that okay I can pick an English name for the child since i cannot give a Kogi name. I said thanks, but I can also give the baby an igbo name. And he’s like but our baby is not Igbo and I’m like I’m Igbo and he’s like since I married him I gave up being Igbo. Huh 😳😳.
So he’s refusing for me to put an Igbo name on the birth certificate. But I’m thinking since I travelled abroad to have the baby and I’m the only one here Il just do it and apologize later. I just want my child to also have an igbo name, he may not even be called by the name but hubby is insisting that 4 names is too long so we should stick to the Kogi name, English name and surname.
I've tried to make him see reason. I have tried and tried for months, gone the emotional route, aggressive route I dunno again. I'm very surprised by this. He's usually very easy going and not at all tribalistic. Although we're in the same age bracket and we both make good money and contribute equally to our home I totally understand that he is my husband and the head of our family and i give him that respect and honour. But i really want to also pass on my heritage to a child that i carried in my womb for 9 months. Pls advise me. It's causing too many fights and I'm getting tired of it.
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