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Village People!

My friend who's been searching for a job for years finally almost got offered one recently. The lady asked him to come and see her before he resumes. The last person that held that position  (executive assistant) was being paid 400k monthly but was fired after it was found out that he had been robbing the lady blind.

Unfortunately on the day he was to meet with her she refused to see him, she refused to take his calls and when they finally spoke days later she sounded like she had never spoken with him before and ended the call abruptly. The person who gave him the connect said it was all very strange as the woman had already agreed to give him the job. Then she asked him if he told anyone about it. He said, no, only an immediate family member whom he's closest to.

The girl cried out. "Why? Why did you tell anyone? Why didn't you wait until you got the job before telling people?". She said she wasn't saying that his family member was directly responsible for him not getting the job, but...

I've seen things happen for close friends which they never told me they were expecting, because "Village people", or because telling people when something is about to happen for you could jinx it. That's why most people only call you from oversees to tell you they're oversees.

Like when I was travelling, i was getting so paranoid. Jeez! But i told my friends. After all is it not the same America people go to everyday? But someone said I shouldn't do that. They started to put all kinds of fear in me, how immigration may turn me away, how I need to go for deliverance before i travel because i never know what the people I told are planning...

I have this close friend who's also a blog reader, I've never discussed this with him so I'm sure he'll laugh when he reads this. We talk often, about almost everything. And he travels quite alot but it's only when he gets there that he sends me a message to say "I'm in London/New York/Dubai...".

Sometimes I get offended but I try to understand where he's coming from. On the other hand I've got this other close friend who's a blog reader too, and travels alot as well. And at least 2 weeks before she travels she has told all of us that she's travelling. And she goes and comes back without any incident.

So what gives?

I've felt quite weird when some friends tell you they're getting married only a week or 2 to the wedding, or get a job they never mentioned they interviewed for, or announce the arrival of something huge that you never even imagined they were planning. As a Nigerian, i understand.

As a friend however I feel quite hurt.

Are you Team shut up until it happens OR Team share with friends?

I'm #teamshare but I try to be more like #teamshutup . Because village people or not, I've learnt that not everyone is happy about your success, even those closest to you sometimes.

So what do you think, is the whole thing in our heads or do "Village people" also sometime known as monitoring spirits really exist?


  1. I am team-share but in the light of current events I'm porting to team shut up abeg.

  2. Even the Bible recognizes the village people.. .I am team shut-up.. TNHW

  3. I'm team share and that's because I have a handful of friends - friends I share almost anything with. Whether monitoring spirits exist or not, I serve a God who is bigger than all them forces - and everything I get comes from Him. If a purportedly close friend plays the team shutup card with me, it surely tells me much about how I'm to value the friendship. Chrisyinks

  4. how about the ones who are so active on social media...when they are cooking or brushing mouth they are on snapchat or instagram.. all of a sudden..silence ..then BOOM! they post baby bump photoshoot then post a baby who's past a month old. lol its funny to me. but i guess people still believe in the "village people" ish. oh well

  5. I've never been a member of team share, though not for any of the above reasons. Outside my small circle of faithful, I generally just keep my intentions to myself.

  6. ......I've learnt that not everyone is happy about your success, even those closest to you sometimes......

    ^^^^^^This is why I keep things to my self sometimes. I which I could do it more often. You just feel so hurt especially when you see it clearly that they aren't happy about it.

  7. It depends really on the person I am sharing with. I don't share with everyone because if the good news doesn't materialize I don't like the reminders.


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